Growing up, everyone around me that study hard, listen to your parents, listen to your teachers, listen to so and so. Obedience seems to equate good. I disagree in some level. It is good to have a balance. If you promote your kid to be 100% obedience and not let them even express their thoughts, you may very well be breeding a kid who in the future cannot make any decision by themselves, who their peers might call them ma ma's boy/gal. An individual needs to be capable of making their own decision, have their own opinion and have confident to make choices for themselves. What's good if your kid, even after they are all grown up, all they know when presented with a choice is to ask their mama or papa.
"Hon, I really want to spend alone time with you. I think it is a good time to have our own place," said A's girlfriend.
"Oh, hon, I don't know. I'll have to ask my mom about that. I don't think she will like that idea," replied A.
A is a grown up man with 35 years behind him living with his parents.